Can’t Get Enough

 I’m back on the Mississippi River. This time, I’m camped at a Corps of Engineers campground just north of Muscatine, Iowa. It’s one of my favorite places to hang out and do absolutely nothing. Well, some people would be bored, but I spend my time reading, walking and watching. 

Julia and her sister took their brother Scott to New Orleans as a 60th birthday present. I’ve been to the Big Easy several times. My grandfather used to say this about places that he didn’t plan to return: “I didn’t leave nothin’ there.” I wouldn’t go quite that far about New Orleans, but I’m content spending some time along the same river—upstream a bit at $13/ night with the Old Geezers’ discount.

Callie is a happy camper. 

Mid-week, this place is quiet. I can see the river out the Scamp’s dinette window, and I have a nice buffer of woods behind me. 

I’ll build a fire tonight at dusk. There’s a cold Pseudo  Sue IPA from Toppling Goliath in the fridge when I’m ready.

Beer in the Barn

Some of the best beer surprises are the ones you find in unexpected places. One of our new Iowa pickleball friends recommended that we try out a bar in St. Donatus for a good burger with homemade French fries. I asked about the beer, and the response was along the lines of “yes, they have beer.”

St. Donatus, population 120, is a very small town founded by a Luxembourg early settler. If you blink at highway speeds, you could easily miss it.

In doing some navigational research, I saw a listing for “Beer in the Barn” across the street from said bar and tucked behind an old Inn. As it turned out,  the burgers and fries at the bar were just okay, but Beer in the Barn was a stunning find. 

The pictures we took don’t do it justice. The stone barn is supposedly the oldest standing barn in Iowa. 

We asked the chief bartender/owner to tell us his story. In doing so, we learned that his wife is the brewmaster. We later learned from her that one of her best friends lives in Lodi. That Lodi woman is one of Julia’s friends and was Justin’s long-time piano teacher. Small world!

Julia’s hazy IPA was delicious. My milk stout was very good. There will be live music on Sunday afternoon. We plan to be back.

Along the River

Yesterday would have been Justin’s 24th birthday. I haven’t been sleeping well, and there are so many memories in the house. This morning, we headed to Iowa and set up camp a few steps from the shore of the Mississippi River. 

The campground is quiet mid-week, and it was a perfect day in the Upper Midwest: temperatures in the mid 70’s. A haze from the Canadian wildfires masked an otherwise sunny day. 

We’ve already seen our first barge. 

There is something very peaceful about sitting in a camp chair and watching the river flow by. 

May Update

After battling a failed respiratory system for four months in the hospital, my 23-year-old son, Justin, died last night.  Last week, he was driving the hospital bean-counters and back-office people crazy by having way too much fun in the hospital.  He was playing video games, watching sports and crime shows on tv, and ordering Uber Eats.  Then Saturday afternoon, he went code blue with rapid changes in oxygen level, heart rate and blood pressure.  

With modern medicine, drugs and technology, hospital staff stabilized his numbers, but Justin became quite uncomfortable and agitated.  His last words were, "Will it ever end?"   Allie flew home on Sunday night, and her presence in the hospital room on Monday brought a final, brief smile to Justin's lips.  He passed later that night.  

I'm proud of my son for his lifetime willingness to fight for a life that was in many ways fuller than most able-bodied people.  In return, he made our lives richer and fuller.  

After a time for grieving the loss of Justin and also celebrating his life, I will be back, hopefully, with more adventures of my own to document in this blog.  Life is short, and tomorrow is not guaranteed. 

April Update

 

It's been awhile since I've posted.  Justin's situation is hard to write about, but I know there are people who want to know what's going on with Justin, my son.  In truth, he is getting sicker and weaker.  For awhile,he made great progress, talking, eating, and getting back into his power wheelchair.  

Then he started getting weaker.  His left lung became covered with secretions, and he needed surgery to scrape things out. Then a CT scan revealed more new spine fractures (total of 7).  After that, he just hasn't been able to get over the hump.  This week, Justin decided to discontinue the weaning from the ventilator.  He is on full breath support and can no longer use the voice valve to talk without dangerous oxygen drops.  Pain medication has been significantly increased to help him deal with the pain.

It's a tough thing for a 23-year-old to confront one's mortality.  We will continue this journey with Justin to the end to the best of our abilities.  We don't know how much time is left, but we are glad to have time to say the things that need saying.  

The only travel that I will be doing in the foreseeable future is to visit my Mom and Dad in Iowa, where my father is in hospice.  He has his own journey.  Due to strokes, both his body and mind have betrayed him.  But he is over 90 years old and lived a full life.  He is a tough ex-Marine and will not go silently into the night.  

I will update again when something changes.  For now, it's daily visits to  Justin's hospital.  Julia and I alternate most days to give each other breaks.  Justin and I pass the time reliving our common experiences and watching shows on tv together.  He expects me to read his lips.  I expect him to use his voice app.  Yeah, we still clash a bit.  Sometimes he gets back at me by forcing me to watch women's soccer.  It's all good--at least as good as it can be under the circumstances. 

Starkweather Beer Company

 When I moved back to Madison to attend law school in 1987, we moved to a crappy little apartment near the banks of Starkweather Creek on the unfashionable east side.  Today, the east side is booming, and one of the newer brewpubs is called Starkweather Beer Company.

It was Saint Pat's Day.  While Guinness is a decent light-bodied stout, I opted for Starkweather's dry Irish Stout, named "Jamestown Jackdaw." Coming in at 5.9 ABV, it had a malty chewable backbone.  It's a new favorite stout for me.  Julia had Late Winter Haze, a New England IPA that didn't have as much fruitiness as she likes in a hazy.  It was still well-executed.

We walked down the street to the Harmony Bar, where Julia enjoyed a complete corn beef and cabbage dinner.  I opted for the Reuben sandwich.  Mine was washed down with an Edmund Fitzgerald porter from Great Lakes Brewing.  Julia enjoyed her Chaos Pattern IPA from 3 Sheeps Brewing.  Both are great beers.

Justin update:  After a long holding pattern, Justin has started to make some big strides in his recovery journey.  A new and smaller trache now allows him to speak (at length) and also eat small bites (much better tasting than puree).   These were two major goals that Justin set for himself when he decided that life on a trache is preferable to death without a trache.  

Yesterday, he made it into his wheelchair for the first time in ten weeks.

Justin's medical condition is still complex, and he continues to have "events" which would be a crisis outside of a hospital.  He is currently in a specialty hospital for vent patients and receives a high level of care.  The goal for their patients is to wean people off their vents and send them home.  Justin's muscular dystrophy may interfere with a complete weaning off the vent, but he is still making progress.  

Medical update on Dad:  My father had serious strokes very recently.  The doctors at the hospital opined that he doesn't have long to live and that additional strokes are likely, based on the MRI.  He has been transferred to a nursing home and is receiving hospice services.  Dad is 91.  Mom celebrated her 85th birthday earlier this week.  We have had a couple of trips to Iowa recently to visit my Dad and to support my Mom.